We waited a while for Francesca. In a lot of different ways ways. We waited to conceive. We switched to science when our own attempts did not work. We tried different scientific approaches, finally arriving at success with PGD and in-vitro fertilization. When Francesca was around a year old, at the suggestion of her day care, we had the folks from the Zero to Three program come out to evaluate her. The teacher at the day care felt she wasn’t hitting the milestones she should be in basically all areas. I had some concerns myself but had chalked them off to her being on the slower side of the “normal” range. When I brought the concerns up to our pediatrician he said she was fine, we should wait, but he understood my concern and need to follow up further.
The program administrators sent out a slew of folks, from occupational and physical therapists to speech therapists, all of whom came to conduct an in-home evaluation. I am pleased to say, as were they, that Francesca was doing just fine and would be hitting those milestones in her own time. We just need to wait. The speech therapist did suggest that if by 18 months she didn’t speak more we could have her re-evaluated.
She spoke a little more, but not much more at 18 months. At this point, I was more comfortable in my own skin and felt that Francesca was just moving at her own pace and that it was just a tad behind the other kids. We didn’t re-evaluate. We waited some more. Every so often I question where she is developmentally and before I have a chance to explore my concerns further, she goes and moves on up to another milestone.
At just over 3 now, she is talking up a storm. Her sentences are not grammatically correct by any stretch of the imagination. At times I catch myself wondering if she should have the syntax of grammar “down” a little more than she does, and then I remember that she will “get it” in her own time. And we wait. There will come a time, in the very near future that I will miss the little nuances and errors of her speech and grammar. She will soon move away from those cute mixed-up phrases and be talking like a “3 going on 10″ year old. For now, she speaks like this:
“Who do that?”
“Mommy, this eye wake” (as she points to her eye), “this eye, tired” (as she points to the other).
“I hungry Mommy.”
“I no sorry!” (very popular after asking her to apologize to her brother for something she did to him)
I love the way she speaks. For now, I will cherish the words and phrases of a pre-schooler and
I will chuckle, to myself, when she talks as she does. It will soon change. I can wait.